Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook's Chief Operating Officer, wrote in her new book: "We all have blind spots - weaknesses that other people see but we don't. Sometimes we're in denial. Other times we simply don't know what we're doing wrong ... The people who have taught me the most in my career are the ones who pointed out what I didn't see." She added: "One of the best ways to see ourselves clearly is to ask others to hold up a mirror."
I have lots of personal experience in this regard. One of the recent experience is that a personal trainer, who was working out with a machine next to me, corrected my posture. She said it is a waste of time and effort if I keep doing it with a wrong posture. Another example is that my singing teacher gave me a feedback on how I switched to a soft falsetto immediately when I was reaching some high pitches.
Atul Gawande, author of "Checklist Manifesto" also told us that no matter how much of an expert we are, getting feedback from someone watching us always helps we perform better. "[Coaches] are your external eyes and ears, providing a more accurate picture of your reality," he said. "They break your actions down and help you build them back up again."
Suggested practice
be proactive and start asking for feedback with an open mind and see what you will discover
practise for short periods of time and do it frequently (時間短, 次數多)
make it a habit, and share your experience with family and friends
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